Feeling sexy everyday

Posted by admin

I have been married for 16 years to my high school sweetheart.  Over the years we have been through many things in our lives, things that I have seen split apart other marriages.  I am not bragging my point in all this is that even though we have been through thick and thin over the past years, I sometimes feel like we are missing that spark we used to have.

Do any of you ever feel that way?  Its not like hubby is not the most gentle or kind man I could ever want, but you know that spark you had in the beginning of your relationship the one you wanted to look your best, or you couldn’t wait for him to come home from work etc.  Its not like I don’t want to have him home, no but its become routine.

So how do we get that spark back in our lives?  I have been reading Mama Gena’s Marriage Manual to help spark my imagination.  One thing that mama says that I have always agreed with is that we need to respect ourselves and to love ourselves for who we are already.  I have always stated that.  By doing so not only do we make ourselves feel good and others will see our changes but that sexy spark will come back in your marriage as well.

I know I for one have days that hubby comes home, I am still working on the computer with a baseball hat on and sweats and no makeup.  Now I am not a huge makeup fan but honestly if a stranger stopped in at the house and I looked like this I would be embarrassed so why don’t I feel that way when hubby comes home.  Shouldn’t I start to love myself more, shouldn’t I take the time to do my makeup and at least get dressed before I start working.  The answer is yes!  Normally I can say yes I do that…but you know the days that you just don’t want to dress or put on a little makeup.  How do you feel about yourself when you do?

Do you feel sexy?  Do you walk around the house with a bounce in your step, or a wicked smile on your face…no why?  Because its hard to feel good about yourself when you are walking around with baggy clothes on.

Now I am not a skinny woman in fact I am a 5?5? height and 170 pound framed woman.  I have a huge butt lol and hips that will never be the same after having 3 boys.  My gut will never be the same after having a surgery that cut through all my stomach muscles from top to bottom and left to right so I will never have a flat stomach unless I go and get it fixed through surgery…ugg not for me I can imagine myself that way but after watching a couple shows on plastic surgery NO WAY they can keep it.

So what do you do?  First I ask you this, what makes you feel good?  If you are like me and don’t really wear a lot of makeup then don’t, I usually wear a little foundation now that I have red blotches on my face and some lipstick…I love the new mineral makeup where it takes less then 30 seconds to put on makeup.  Anyway I digress, what else makes you feel good?  Do you act differently when you feel sexy? I know I do, even if all I am is dressed in jeans and a nice shirt I feel better about myself.  Again I won’t tell you I do this everday, my best friend could attest to that…how many times have I looked at the clock and realized everyone is going to be home and I am still in a baseball hat and in my sweats.  Then there are the days I decide to get ready, I walk differently all day.  I sashay around the house, I feel sexy.

In Mama Gena’s book she talks about her Sister Goddesses who are there for each other, support each other, go out of there way to brag about themselves and feel good about themselves and give each other advice on marriage, friendships etc etc a real good for woman to woman brag fest.  This has inspired me to start up a group for those of us who need girl time, who need time away…who need time to be a woman…away from responsibilites, a way to brag and feel sexy again, a time to help each other.

So be on the lookout, once I have the blog going I will be posting the URL here.  I hope to have a once a month online girl fest each month and hopefully go offline in my own hometown…a way to find other woman who need and want to feel sexy again in their marriage who want to have that spark back and a way for us girls to get together and do fun things and just plain take time for ourselves.

Heck our hubbies do it all the time when they go to a game or out in the garage with their buddies watching Sunday afternoon football so why shouldn’t we women do the same thing, go flirt have fun and just show off our sexy selves….

I hope you all join me once the blog and meetings start it will be fun to be able to brag and talk about things most times we feel we shouldn’t talk about especially online because of us being business owners…we may be business owners but first and foremost we are all women! 

More to come….